Making Fun Of Your Partner Improves The Relationship, Study Finds

LOL January 17, 2019 By Hugo

When we look for a partner, the first thing most of us look for in a love interest is laughter. Above physical attraction, laughter can make or break a relationship and turn a partner into a best friend if the giggles are constant.

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In other words, not taking yourself too seriously is the key to a healthy relationship, and that includes poking fun at your partner according to an insightful study conducted at the University of Kansas.

Jeffrey Hall conducted 39 studies comprising over 15,000 people during a 30-year duration.

One of the key findings found that humor played a significant role in a successful relationship.

Hall revealed that, "People say they want a sense of humour in a mate, but that's a broad concept. That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction.

"What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humour that couples create together.

"Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you... It's not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse.

"What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what's funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.

"Playfulness between romantic partners is a crucial component in bonding and establishing relational security. Particularly shared laughter, is an important indicator of romantic attraction between potential mates."

However, Hall added that a line has to be drawn and shouldn't be overstepped. "Having an aggressive sense of humour is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humour is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it's likely you've seen that firsthand in your relationship."

So, if you can't remember the last time you've ever laughed with your partner, then the writing may be on the wall. 

Just saying....

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